Miranda Hobbes: The Original Girlboss
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samantha all the way. back then, now and forever
Making the Miranda episode free seems so Miranda…
Agree, I don’t even care about the other three, specially not the Carrie’s one.
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This it the most true and hilarious comment ever posted. Amen. Good night.
I am going to be upset by this one. Miranda got the shortest end of the stick out of all the sac girls. Steve was real piece of work. I believe the term used nowadays is hobosexual. He forced Miranda to let him move in, Coerced her into having a baby, and never even tried to help with the home or bring home the bacon…
When he cheated on HER and then all her friends agreed that she should forgive him??!?! I was HEATED
Didn’t he eventually own a bar?
@@jessicaholmes4246and? Owning a bar/restaurant in nyc isn’t profitable until you get through the first 5+ years. Most fail before then. Then factor that he didn’t own it independently. In the show Miranda was the one who made money for the family and bought their home/ paid for their nanny.
He had his own bar..and made their home..their home
a friend taught me the phrase “not my circus, not my monkeys” and that’s the only way I’ve been able to deal with friends that have, by my standards, risky financial attitudes. I just remind myself of that, give my savings at extra strong hug, and let it go.
I usually say “not my problem, not my solution”. Same philosophy.
Your friend must be Polish 🙂🇵🇱
Someone once said that women make horrible decisions on the basis of “love” and I think Miranda is an example of that. “I believe this is love, therefore I will suffer through it. In fact, the more I suffer, the stronger the love must be.”
Yes exactly 💔
This is brainwashing. Girls are brainwashed into that idea since early childhood. Because it is convenient fo the society to convince women they should sacrifice anything to a be an unpaid servant of a man and reproduce with him and raise new generation of exploitable workforce
Wow. I really had to hear this. I am trying to get over a toxic person, who I thought loves me even when no one does and turned out he just betrayed me and lied to my face several times. Is hard, when that person is the only one you have.
The older I get (I’m 28 now) the more I don’t vibe with Miranda. She frequently is just frankly too rude & harsh on people, when I think I initially perceived it as being a good “girl boss” and rightfully assertive. She is also famously extremely insecure on the inside. Team Samantha & Charlotte alllll the way.
However, the older I get, the more Steve is also a horror-story boyfriend/husband rather than a cute golden retriever guy
She is insecure and that’s why she lashes out, it’s not an excuse but she like a lot of girls were told to not focus on anything but school. Once they reached what they were told was success they realized it wasn’t everything. She 100% is a product of that
Weird, I think Charlotte in the original series was just mean a lot of times lol (also being a proud wasp is…..not it these days). It also showed in the dynamics of the group that the other women preferred to confide in Sam or Miranda before letting Charlotte in the loop
@@MsKateC2K That’s fair. My praise of Charlotte is mostly that she’s someone with a very healthy sense of self esteem. She definitely knows her worth and acts accordingly, which I think is a good role model for women!
I watched SATC during my teen years and thought the characters and their lives were sooooo aspirational.
Now, I am a woman who is roughly the same age as the characters in the show. I am married with children and I am a therapist…gotta tell you, no.
I love that the characters aren’t perfect and reflect real human flaws, but their relationships and choices were a mess. Fertile ground for therapy and I enjoyed analyzing from my couch. I just feel much differently watching 20 years later.
Steve is classic for his “dating above his paygrade” and then wanting to essentially cut her down a few notches for what she isn’t as a woman (born maternal, etc.), rather than just choosing to date a nice woman from Brooklyn who wants what he wants. This is what toxic “nice guys” do. 🤦♀
Not only it was Steve like a terrible partner. But Miranda had low self-esteem, she had some very attractive and economically stable men that wanted something serious with her, but she sabotage every single one of those.
The basketball shooting stuff was WILD. Steve was acting like a 10 yo.
The relationship between Miranda and Steve was, ultimately, joyless. It frustrated me to no end that she did not end up with Dr. Robert Leeds, with whom Miranda seemed so much happier and more compatible. Eigenberg has pointed out that Steve started out reading poetry and then they dumbed him down more and more. A shame for both characters.
YES! It still hurts that she didn’t end with the doctor
Jared Padelecki said the same thing about Dean on Gilmore Girls
I’m VERY here for the Steve slander. He was such an Adam Sandler Shlubcore sadboy. This era was all about barely functional manboys failing upward and making way better women settle for them.
an Adam Sandler Shlubcore sadboy…ITS TOTALLY A TYPE nailed it!!!!
The show did Robert so wrong, and the way they wrote him off (where suddenly he’s a playa with an International House of P—–) was frankly incredibly racist and lazy. I assumed Robert wouldn’t last (Blair Underwood is so beautiful that he’s often cast as the Perfect Guy who makes the heroine realize she should be with the schlub; see also Something New with Sanaa Lathan) but *how* they did it still makes my blood boil.
I got so angry about the way they turned him into an a******.
I never saw that way. He was pissed, he let her know his emotions, healthy reaction, when someone leaves you to go back to ex …
The Steve impressions made this soooooooooooo enjoyable.
Dude, the “double standard” of the suit issue is the whole point! They’re showing that wealthy women are going to be punished for their success and can’t “buy” the guy’s attention/committment the way that wealthy successful men can. In the early 90s, that’s what counted as “creative” storytelling on women’s issues.
Smith eventually saying “come to the playground to watch me shoot basketballs” is kinda what happened in the first movie. Samantha did her job as his manager/agent SO WELL that her life/career became all about Smith. The line in the movie “I love Smith, but does that mean that I should say his name 50 times more a day than I say my own?” was pretty groundbreaking at the time.
“the glitterati migrated to Brooklyn” to see his play so they kind of did that.
Yes but being an actor for such a hot guy is not that delulu
“People who don’t like their jobs spend a lot of time on Reddit”. Damn. You got me.
Lmao😂 that’s when I created a reddit. When I was at a job I didn’t like lol
From the first time I watched the show as a teen, I never understand why Miranda (or anyone) liked Steve. I found him ugly, and he was a whiny, immature, insecure loser who essentially acted as a parasite and deliberately manipulated Miranda by always playing the victim and preying on her insecurities about being too masculine. And I agree his voice is annoying af.
There’s literally nothing good about him, and Miranda was clearly only with him out of fear of being alone.
I think Miranda is a cautionary tale of what happens when you’re a woman who has a high powered financial life, career but low self worth/esteem and therefore lets loser men guilt her into making decisions against her bst interest. I think the writers actually showed a very realistic and relatable character arc. Many women I know have ended up in this trap (including myself) and it’s fitting Miranda did as well. Even getting back together with Steve after Brady was born – she wanted to make it work with the father of her child, which is not uncommon. It’s a fantasy many women have. Its also hinted at that Miranda doesnt have a necessaeily close relationship with her family of origin so perhaps that was a factor. I think Miranda was unhappy with her life in a lot of ways, which is why her attitude was always so cynical and judgmental (in earlier seasons). While I have qualms with the followup series, Miranda divorcing Steve makes tons of sense.
Conclusion from this episode – Miranda is a basket case – at least her character has been betrayed like this.
Honestly, she chose Steve because she had the illusion that she could control him. That’s why she tried to buy the suite for him. That’s why she chose Steve over Dr. Robert. She didn’t want to be in an equal relationship.
She never accepted him for what he is, a working-class bartender who will not understand her high-demand lifestyle with a man-child ego.
At the same time, she was so scared of what people thought about her that she didn’t enjoy herself or her success and money.