Ignorance Is a Choice
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Holly (@hollyadairtrantham ) and Alexa (@momentswac ) went IN on this season, and let’s just say… some of these men are lackingggg. But beyond the drama, we need to talk about something deeper: the way we interpret “if he wanted to, he would.”
Because sure, if he wanted to text back, plan a date, or make an effort, he would. But also—if he wanted to expand his worldview, engage with different cultures, and challenge his own biases, he would have by now. And there is nothing you can do to change that. It’s not your job to teach him how to care about people. 🙃
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Watching any of these types of shows are toxic, unrealistic and made to promote and normalize conflict for the purposes of entertainment.
100%
Interesting take…I haven’t heard the argument of “normalizing conflict” before with content like this, but you’re spot on!!!!!
I recommend Dr. Kirk Honda’s commentary videos on his channel “Psychology in Seattle”. He uses shows as ‘jumping-off points’ for explorations/explanations of different psychological models and pathological conditions.
Personally, i have never watched any reality TV show for some of the reasons you mentioned and more, but i find Dr. Honda’s videos interesting. He will often communicate his disagreement to behaviors or opinions clearly, while also providing compassionate perspectives on how someone might end up behaving in a certain way. This will often help me have compassion for people in my life (and myself) behaving somewhat irrationally.
@@kk-fo3zxme too! I love watching the shows myself and then watching different therapists on YouTube react to them and break things down that I thought were normal behavior but then I learn why it’s a harmful or potentially abusive behavior. And rarely but sometimes we even get examples of really great responsible behavior and that’s nice as well because then there’s something you can watch and learn from
I wish you were right
I don’t know the context, but I’m not understanding the message? Of course people can be inspired to change for the better?
Gotta watch the show 🤷🏽♀️
I think this is referencing the concept in romantic relationships of “I can change him,” but I haven’t watched the show. 🤷
Yes people can be inspired to change but you should never enter a relationship with the hope that your love will inspire your partner to change or be better in any way, that just leads to anger and disappointment. People (men, in this particular case) should already be doing well by themselves.
Change is an internal motivator. External motivation can work if you aren’t taking the action due to anxiety or ignorance of the result, but if the reason for not changing is anything else, external motivation won’t be a lasting change.
@@PenelopeSnowe what happens in the show?
Thissss 😬😗👀
It seems so odd to be apolitical these days.